Bursting Your Bubble; Happily.
The relationship is always a two-way process. It’s nothing unknown or something hidden from the world, we all are always ready to tell this line to our friends or someone who shares their problems with us. We are most probably very much ready to help our friends when they seek it from us. We like to act as “I know it all”.
But when it comes to us, ourselves? Oh, all good! what is wrong with us? All good! But deep down we are really in denial to look within us or to put it more profoundly, we always know what is wrong. Our gut feeling is a genius always telling us “Yup right there! That was a wrong move on his/her part” “oh boy you should have said no and shouldn’t have let your guards down”
But rather what happens? We start ignoring that little voice or much worse we start making excuses in our defense and let it sit quietly in the corner where it can wait till that perfect moment to say “ha! Told ya!”
“I was too busy at that time” “oh it’s ok he was too tired that’s why he forgot!”
Do you see, how the pattern forms here? We tend to make excuses, for ourselves, for them. I am not saying that we should jump on every silly thing and act as if the fire alarm has gone off and the house is on fire, but ignoring every mistake should not become a pattern. We should know when to put our foot down and set our grounds. This should begin within us, when we start respecting ourselves, everyone around us, will!
He was tired at that time? ok! what did he does to compensate for that, the next day? or what did you do when you couldn’t deliver a specific promise? Talking here about a two-way process, this article is not about jabbing the other partner but rather focusing on what went wrong because these very small things that we tend to ignore at first, become the very big reasons for fighting later in life.
Just to be nice or overly in love what we tend to do is ignore ourselves we outdo everything and it goes both ways. The men should realistically perform from day one and both should act maturely from day one. What I am saying is we should know what we want and what message our actions are conveying, if we are ok with something in the beginning, because we just don’t want to upset the other person how will they know? and they become habitual of that. I don’t understand the hype of acting superficially in the beginning, acting all lovey-dovey. I understand the idea sounds fun and looks very dreamy, but to have a healthy relationship one should start with a clear and open mind, I repeat open minds!
